Tags archives: Adoption

  • The Day of Thinks

  • Some part of me thought that we wouldn't get here.  I wouldn't let myself actually look this far into the future and see this day.  This 5 year old girl standing before me, strong and growing and shining with light, I didn't think I'd see her. It's given me new hope, if we can reach 5, which seemed so far away and i[...]
  • Pure

  • There is a stigma to special needs adoptions, but it's not what you may think.  The stigma belongs to the birth parents, labelled as selfish, heartless or weak. It's an easy assumption to make, a way to blame.  When we first got the call about Lily, those were the thoughts that ran through my head.  What kind of person[...]
  • Jax's World

  • Shortly after Lily came home, Jess was talking to a woman who said to her, "I've heard about people like you."  A little taken aback, for a moment Jess wasn't entirely sure which of the "like you" categories the woman was referring to - lesbians or parents who had chosen a child with Down Syndrome.  The woman was refer[...]
  • 31 for 21: The Rest of the Journey

  • We took some time after Paxton to just settle for a bit.  After all of the rushing, we didn't want to keep pushing ahead and were obviously scared about more heartbreak.  We needed the time to reflect and figure out what to do differently the next time.  We knew that there would be a next time, but we just needed some [...]
  • 31 for 21: Days 5 & 6

  • 12 months after camp ended, we were back again.  It was a completely different experience leading up to our time away; I felt like a teenager who aches to be back at summer camp all through the school year because that's where she really belongs.  I couldn't wait to get back and see everyone and just immerse myself int[...]
  • #500 for 5

  • 5 years.  Since just after that horrible day 4 years ago, the goal has been 5 years.  "Take her home and grow her," they told us, "if the day comes when she needs a heart-lung transplant, the success rate improves dramatically once a child is 5."  It seemed impossible.  5 years felt more like a lifetime, especially whe[...]
  • The Amazing Constant Chaos

  • When you parent a child with special needs and any type of medical needs, you often hear people say, "I don't know how you do it."  Most of the time I just shrug it off because I don't always know either, but as a parent, you don't think about it, you just do it. However, in the past two weeks, I've started to quest[...]
  • Ask Away

  • So clearly my attempt at {31 for 21} has been a failure of epic proportions.  I'm not sure when we October ran past me, but it did and suddenly I've woken up and there are only 13 days left in this month.  I had started with, what I thought was, a great idea - taking single posts to talk about the peices of Lily's life[...]
  • Which Mom Am I?

  • When your child has a special need, regardless of whether it's a developmental disability or a medically based complexity, parents want to champion these issues: to bring their knowledge and experiences to people so that we can educate and bring awareness to what makes our child special.  My problem is that I don't kno[...]
  • One Year Later

  • In our first year of life with Lily, we celebrated every anniversary we could think of: the day we got the phone call, the day we met her, the day she had her first overnight visit, the day she came home for good, the day of her heart surgery, the day of her cardiac arrest.  All of these culminated on September 19th, w[...]
  • Those Genetics...

  • A mom post tonight.... It's become part of our routine to see Lily's birth parents every few months. We really enjoy seeing them: watching the expression on their faces when they see how much she has grown and what she can do.  There is something immensely fulfilling about watching her birth dad hold her for an entire[...]
  • Renovation Mode

  • Guys, Mommy is a destruction queen! For the past few weeks she has been working day and night in the basement of our house to, "get it ready". For a while I didn't really know what that meant but I do now and it's a pretty amazing thing. The mom's have decided that it's time for me to have some siblings! That's right[...]